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Seventeen-year-old Phnom Penh high school student Vin Ka has never experimented with apps like Matchstix.
He met his current girlfriend at school two months ago.“We teach each others while studying in Khmer class,” he said, adding that he hasn’t told his parents about the relationship.
“They [will] worry that I think about love, not studying.”And some young Cambodians still think parents are still in the best position to pick their future partners.
Keo Kouch Savann, also 17, is single, but said the system of parental matchmaking had its merits.“Maybe they find a good person for us, better than we would find,” he said.
We are at the tail end of the wedding season in Cambodia, which runs from December through February, because the weather is nice and it doesn’t rain.
Many young Cambodian women look for a mate or husband at events such as the Water Festival or at religious ceremonies.
Their religion, Theravada Buddhism, has much to do in shaping this relationship so that in most instances deviant sexual behaviour is always considered to be sweetest,” says Dr Fil Tabayoyong, Jr, a social and holistic health development professional and an international medical doctor. If you are interested in someone, ask them out for coffee.
“This means that what is forbidden is sweetest but has to be performed and done clandestinely.” For some Cambodians, online dating sites are a tool for finding a mate. Sometimes the first step is to take the courage to ask, but don’t specify that it is a date. If the answer is no, OK, so it’s not the end of the world, and it’s better to know now than later.
When the company launched matchmaking app Matchstix last July, they pitched it as a way for Cambodians to meet new friends, out of concern that online matchmaking for overtly romantic purposes might be too risque.“I think Cambodians are in theory very conservative, and their parents are conservative,” said marketing and operations manager Klara Grintal at MobiMedia’s astro-turfed conference room—filled with neon beanbags—in Phnom Penh’s Boeng Keng Kang I commune.“But if you go to the coffee shops, and you listen to conversations young Cambodians are having—and the kinds of messages they are exchanging—these are not very conservative at all,” she said.
Another 18-year-old, who asked to remain anonymous, said she would never meet up with a stranger she had met online.“I almost got rape once, so yeah, you know?
” she wrote over the messaging and matchmaking app Badoo.
Though some young women in Phnom Penh said they would be fine meeting someone in person after chatting on the app, others were less sure.
An 18-year-old who gave her name only as Vannarin said she found the idea “scary,” though three of her friends sitting in Wat Botum park said they would consider it.