Dating a farmer
We started dating in winter, so My Farmer had time time to spend with me. You may even have to miss out on things because the farm comes first. I don’t believe you can be a supportive partner if you don’t know what they do.
I’m not from a farm, so if I hadn’t spent my career working with farmers, planting season would have come as a shock. I’ve ridden in the combine, helped pick tobacco off the line, and taken a seat on the transplanter when setting out sweet potatoes.
Thing is, of course plans come second to the farm, four-legged babies have to be fed, cows have to be milked, crops have to be planted, etc. I wouldn't trade my farmer or my farm life for anything! My husband and I are going on 13 years now, and I still have what I've heard referred to as "farmer's wife transition" every year.
Embrace the farm life; allow your husband the time and freedom to do what HAS to be done.
Take lots of pictures so your husband can catch up! Just remember, it's just as hard for him to be away from you, too. Also during planting and harvest I've learned to utilize that time with me-time, girlfriends I need to make time for, and family I don't see enough.
We have five children, and we are looking forward to the day when they can really help out! Find the things to fill the gaps when he is busy - whether that is kids, gardening, helping him out, catching up on laundry, your other family, reading, knitting, etc. I had to learn that getting upset only hurts me and our family. It is okay to be annoyed or upset, but don't hang onto it. I find that making my place in his work is so helpful. Know that your spouse is never choosing the farm over you, but choosing the farm for you and for your family. I always say I'd rather live in his world then without him in mine! We know it's rewarding, but if we are being honest, it's hard. When you live a life where your livelihood depends on your care and your time, it means the days don't start at 8 and they certainly don't end at 5.
When I miss my husband, I go out and farm with him.She considered herself unemployed and a housewife, WHAT! Cindy - We never put anyone down and we even said sometimes its a farmer married to a farmer.We have all kinds of ladies who read this site and there is no blanket of information to help everyone. I grew up on a farm and work in the office of a farm. I am making the transition to move in a few weeks.. I have been a farmer my entire life, raised on one and have been married to one for 38 years. We moved to a tiny town in MT a year and a half ago. I am 23, I grew up on a farm and am marrying a farmer this Fall (hopefully harvest is finished by our wedding date--if not, our first few days as a married couple will be spent snuggled together in the combine ;) ) My fiance and his family take Sundays off and it is a huge blessing! It is a good reminder that he is not choosing the farm over me, he is working hard FOR me! My husband is very proud of me and our farming business. My boyfriend recently bought a farm ( house , 4 acres , 2 barns) in the middle of nowhere Indiana.He tells me you wanted a farmer and a farm life but can handle it? But about 3 months has gone by & I can't imagine waking up anywhere else with anyone else.You have to be patient and in time it will all fall together. I am a dairy farmer My husband runs the farm as a whole and I milk morning and night not quite as early as I should but I'll get there my 12yr old daughter helst milk my sons help feed calves among other things. We have 3 pigs that I take care of & barns that need some TLC.
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Sometimes it sucks and sometimes you just have to look forward to winter. Being a farmer can be tough on your feelings when the days are long and you don't have much sleep and you aren't feeling loved. You have to learn to appreciate the small moments together! It takes a strong-willed person that farms and ranches.